What
we say and why we say it has a great impact on our relationships. Can we
have bad results even when telling the truth? Is it okay to lie for a good reason?
"Is
it good to lie for a good cause?" It is a question that is asked
frequently. The answers to that question are somewhat interesting.
One
person replied: “In my opinion, the basis of moral action is to speak freely to
maximize the well-being of others and minimize the harm you do to others. A
rule such as 'never lie', in my opinion, is not the basis for moral action, but
instead is always a direct consequence of trying to be moral in the first
place. Lying can be, in my view, sometimes moral. ”
Is
this really so?
Another
person cited a religious figure who offered a traditionalist conclusion: “It is
a sin for someone to lie. When you lie for a good cause, ie, to save
someone else, it is half a sin, because the lie is for the benefit of your
neighbor and not for yourself. However, it is something that is considered
sin. Therefore we must keep this in mind and not fall into the habit of
telling lies about insignificant things. "
So is
it okay to lie for a good cause? What does God say about lies and truth
and our motivation?
God's
parameter
The
underlying motivation that God has and what He wants us to have is love
(Matthew 22: 37-40). Based on this, the apostle Paul offers us an
important parameter for Christian communication.
Speaking
to the Church in Ephesus, he warned Christians against being moved by the winds
of false teaching. Instead, by "speaking the truth in love,"
they "would grow in all in him who is the head, that is, Christ," who
makes him receive his growth "to build himself up in love" (Ephesians
4:14). -16).
Speaking
the truth in love, according to the teaching of the Bible, helps to combat
false doctrine, promotes growth among Christians and brings us closer to the
perfect image of Christ.
Many
understand that it is possible to tell lies out of hatred, but can you tell
lies out of love? Or, also, can one speak the truth without love? It
may seem surprising to some, but it is possible to do all of these things — and
fall short of God's standard. Let's see why.
Tell
lies out of hatred
Examples
of this abound. Perhaps the most horrible example of all is the deceitful
response of the serpent Satan in the Garden of Eden. God Himself had told
Adam and Eve that if they ate the fruit of the forbidden tree, they would
"die" (Genesis 2:17).
Satan
contradicted God with the first lie recorded on the pages of Scripture. He
said to our parents: “You will not die; but God knows that the day you eat
from it, your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and
evil ”(Genesis 3: 4-5).
This
was, in fact, a misrepresented lie. They took from the forbidden tree, and
their eyes were opened (v. 7). But the prerogative to decide good and evil
remained with the Creator, and death and disaster were the consequences of this
decision. The Savior Jesus Christ would later say that the devil “has not
remained in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks
lies, he speaks of himself; for he is a liar, and the father of lies
"(John 8:44).
Long
after the lie in the Garden of Eden, a true prophet had to defend himself
against many liars, who, like the devil, did not care about those who claimed
to love. The message of the false prophets during Jeremiah's time was:
“Peace, peace; and there is no peace ”(Jeremiah 6:14; 8:11).
The
false prophets claimed to love the people of Judah; but if their love were
true, they would have been told that they should change their ways and repent before
God. This fell to the prophet Jeremiah, one who truly loved God and
people, and gave them a difficult message. He passionately preached that
they needed to change their way of life.
Lies
for love?
Is it
possible to say that we love someone and lie to them? Could falsehood be
like a sweet topping and sell it as if it were true?
Consider
the case of a famous letter written by an eight-year-old girl to a newspaper in
1897. The letter has become legendary. Virginia O´Hanlon worried
about what some of her school friends were saying to her. She then
sat down and wrote a letter to the New York Sun newspaper , prompting
an editorial response dated September 21, 1897.
The
purpose of the editorial was to reaffirm the little girl regarding the
existence of Santa Claus. Part of the editor's response is this: “Yes,
Virginia, there is Santa Claus. He exists just as love and generosity and
devotion truly exist, and you know that they abound and give your life the most
incredible beauty and joy. Oh! What would the world of darkness be
like if there were no Santa Claus?… There would be no faith in children, there
would be no poetry, no romance that would make existence bearable. We
would have no joy except in the senses and sight. The eternal light with
which childhood fills the world would be extinguished. "
Tender
words, designed, without a doubt, to make children happy! But are they
true? Of course not.
Undoubtedly, the author of this famous editorial would have
claimed that he acted out of love. However, is it really love if what he
says is false? No, according to the Word of God.
If
you don't tell the children the truth about Santa Claus, will they believe what
we say about Jesus Christ?
Truth
without love?
Is it
possible to tell the truth with the wrong motivation? Yes, these wrong
motives bring us negative consequences — sometimes to the point of the message,
and always to the malicious speaker.
In
the New Testament, the apostle Paul wrote from his difficult prison experience
about those who at least preached a part of the true gospel, but with the wrong
motivation. “Some, in truth, preach Christ out of envy and strife; but
others of good will… Some announce Christ by contention, not honestly, thinking
to add affliction to my prisons ”(Philippians 1: 15-16). Truth preached by
wrong motivation? This has happened - and can happen.
But
don't think that those who preached for the wrong reason won God's favor. God
judges hearts.
More
often, people justify their gossip and slander as truth - but truth is used as
a weapon and with a wrong motive. The Bible strongly warns us against gossip and
the disclosure of confidential information (Proverbs 11:13; 16:27).
Speak
the truth in love!
This
remains "the golden rule". This is what the Word of God requires
and nothing less will suffice. The truth that is spoken in a spirit of
selfishness is not enough. Nor is falsehood spoken of on the basis of
misunderstood love.
Telling
the truth in love can hurt. Sometimes we, as true prophets, must say
things that can be difficult to assimilate. But generally speaking the
truth in love — tactfully, gracefully, with a humble attitude of esteeming the
listener as superior to us (Colossians 4: 6; Philippians 2: 3 ) —will produce
peace and stronger relationships.
When
we are motivated by love — God's genuine concern for others — we will choose
our words carefully and meticulously. As Paul wrote: "No corrupt word
comes out of your mouth, but only one that is good for the necessary
edification, in order to give grace to the hearers" (Ephesians 4:29). We
must choose words that build — that build, encourage, and strengthen. "Speaking
the truth" does not include making ruthless, unsolicited, tactless,
critical comments, just because they are true.
Lies
finally lead us to betrayal; and the truth finally leads us to well-being,
trust and cooperation. From God's perspective, this is what counts. “Wherefore,
discarding the lie, speak truth each one with his neighbor; for we are
members of one another ”(Ephesians 4:25).
Speak
the truth in love! Anything other than this will harm relationships and be
unacceptable to God.
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